Coping With A Partner’s Death: Five Tips

When a partner dies, the other doesn’t just have to say goodbye to a very special person in their life. He must also say goodbye to the common past, present and future. We must say goodbye to common life plans, joint projects, experiences and special moments. Coping with a partner’s death is not easy. It takes time to mourn, and it’s going to be painful. However, it is important to get over the death of a partner because your own life must go on.

Coping with the death of a partner

How can one survive the death of a loved one? How to overcome the death of a partner, friend, lover and ally? While it may seem impossible, it is not.

Every person is different and treats grief and loss differently. But the truth is that certain guidelines and methods can help you get over a partner’s death in a healthier way.

It must be borne in mind that the wound must inevitably be closed.  Otherwise, the grief process will not proceed properly, which may cause problems in the future, such as fears, phobias, uncertainty, and an inability to compromise.

Grief requires time and patience

Grief is a physical, mental and social reaction to the death of a loved one. The intensity, duration and other features of the reaction depend on the individual.

Time is still always needed. So you need to give yourself time and understand that dealing with what has happened is not easy. Also understand that you need to be gentle with yourself.

Remember that grieving is necessary though a difficult process. You have to understand that it is going to be painful and involves a wound that needs to be healed. You need to be gentle with yourself and give yourself enough time to heal. You will experience pain and sorrow.

With that in mind, there are several different things you need to recover:

• Accept the loss.
• Suffered because of it.
• Adapt to your new life without a dead person.
• Break out of the past human energy (talk to him normally, maintain healthy friendships, learn how to love again, no interaction with others, etc.).

Experts say grief typically lasts about 18 months. If grief and pain are still too overwhelming after this time, professional help is needed. But as we said above, every person is different.

Talk about him boldly

Life must go on normally. You need to move forward and focus on having a different future ahead of you now. However, because a dead person has already taken his place in your heart and life, he will always be a part of your memories.

Therefore, and while it will be painful in the first few months, you need to gradually incorporate the memory of your dead partner into your personal story. He will always be a part of your life, you and your being.

So talk about your feelings and that special person. Talk about what he was like, what you did together, about your shared experiences. It will help you recover.

See in your mind a new future after your partner’s death

Death is inevitable. It cannot be prevented. The only option is therefore to accept it sooner or later.

As mentioned above, the difficulty in accepting a partner’s death is that dreams, expectations, plans, and shared years also disappeared with the partner. This forces us to rethink the future and visualize it in a whole new way.

Surviving a partner’s death therefore requires that you be able to visualize a new future for yourself. You don’t have to imagine the rest of your life in a certain way. You can start with short-term goals and gradually move towards the future.

Gradually continue the things you liked

During the first months of grief, the thought of doing the things you did with your partner can be extremely painful. Grief can make former annoyances feel difficult.

However, you need to gradually start doing the things you enjoy. You should feel joy again as you make them what you used to like.

With that in mind, you gradually need to understand that doing them isn’t going to be the same without your partner. Still, remember that you can enjoy those things once again and they can even make you feel better. You should also gradually incorporate your partner’s memory into these trees.

You have the right and obligation to enjoy life again.

Coping with a partner’s death: Seek professional help if needed

No matter how hard you try, it can still be very difficult to accept or get over a partner’s death. Do not hesitate to seek professional help in dealing with grief. Grief therapy can help you get over the loss and continue a normal life.

Remember that grieving is a normal and necessary process that is painful and difficult to get over. Keep this in mind and give yourself time to patiently accept the loss, grieve, take what gradually happened into your own life story and gradually get over the grief.