“Let’s Start Over.” Are You Sure You Want To Take The Risk?

Do you want to start over with your relationship?

Sometimes we want to start a relationship again from scratch. It may be that either we ourselves are asking the other party to start over or both parties to the relationship agree.

However, we may not be aware of the risks involved.

When we decide to start from scratch, we do it excitedly. But all that we have experienced with that person and that has led us to the point that we want to start over again does not disappear.

Starting from the beginning will not make you forget

We may want to start over with our partner because we have been unfaithful and promise that we will never do it again.

However, this requirement can be self-deceptive.

Do we really know that we will not make the same mistake again? Are we afraid of so much difference that we lie to both ourselves and our partner?

We need to keep in mind that in reality we can never start over. This, of course, does not make another person forget what happened.

In most cases, the other party usually agrees. Over time, however, he becomes cold and distant. That is because there is no more trust.

So we need to be fully aware of the risks involved in starting a relationship from the beginning. In reality, there is no “starting from scratch,” even though we would like to…

We are no longer two strangers who know nothing about each other. We have gone through certain experiences that stay with us and that we cannot forget.

This can lead to contempt. The relationship may not progress and instead of moving forward, we may just distance ourselves from each other.

Are you willing to forgive?

With all of the above in mind, and when we really want to start over, we need to be very sure of the step we are going to take.

As we said, it is possible that the other party also thinks that the relationship should start from scratch. However, it does not leave behind all the contempt, mistrust, or bad “taste” left over from experience.

Forgiving the other party can be very difficult if he or she has been unfaithful, abused us, or behaved in a way that caused us to lose our self-confidence.

That is why it is important that we purify all these emotions and leave them behind. That way, we don’t throw them on our partner’s face or negatively impact the new opportunity we give ourselves.

Don’t force anything. If this is impossible for us to do, we should be honest and say “no” to start over. Thus, we avoid hurting ourselves or the other party and making the relationship very destructive to both.

Remove the bandage from the eyes

If we can be aware of all of the above, be honest with ourselves, and say “no, I can’t start over because you hurt me and I can’t go on like it would mean nothing to me,” we take the bandage out of sight.

Many couples who want to start over do so based on imagination, hope, and unrealistic expectations.

They don’t take into account the fact that they are still in pain, that they need time to heal, and that as a result of the negative experiences they are experiencing, their relationship is completely fragmented.

However, it is difficult for us to admit that our relationship has failed. So we strive for the impossible, knowing deep down what the real outcome will be.

It is not necessary to cause so much damage. It’s true that there are people who are able to start over because they can really forgive. However, it is not easy and not everyone can do it.